Is My Drinking a Problem? 7 Signs It’s Time to Talk to a Counselor

Many people wonder at some point: “Is my drinking normal?” If you’ve asked yourself this, you’re not alone—and it’s a good sign of self-awareness. Here are 7 signs that it might be time to talk to a professional.

1. You Drink to Cope

Using alcohol to escape stress, anxiety, or depression is a warning sign. Emotional reliance on alcohol can lead to dependency and worsen underlying issues.

2. You’ve Tried to Cut Back—Without Success

Repeated attempts to quit or reduce drinking—and failing—suggest a loss of control. This is one of the diagnostic signs of alcohol use disorder.

3. Drinking is Impacting Your Responsibilities

Missed work? Skipped family events? When alcohol starts to interfere with daily life, it’s time to reevaluate.

4. You’ve Built a Tolerance

Needing more drinks to feel the same effects can be a red flag. Over time, this increases the risk of physical dependence. (Source: Cleveland Clinic)

5. You Experience Withdrawal Symptoms

Shakiness, irritability, sweating, or nausea after not drinking for a short time are signs of withdrawal. This should never be ignored.

6. You Keep Drinking Despite the Consequences

Whether it’s harming relationships, finances, or health, continuing to drink despite negative consequences indicates a deeper issue.

7. You Think About Drinking a Lot

If alcohol dominates your thoughts, plans, or conversations, it’s more than a habit.

Final Thoughts

You don’t have to hit “rock bottom” to ask for help. Talking to a counselor can bring clarity, reduce shame, and guide you toward a healthier relationship with alcohol. If you recognize yourself in any of these signs, consider reaching out to a licensed therapist or using resources like the SAMHSA Helpline for confidential support.